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ANGER ISSUES



ANGER ISSUES :


Though it can be expressed in one word, it does a lot of damage both consciously and unconsciously. It makes everything worse than how it originally was. That’s not the scariest thing about anger.


Anger is like that one person in our life who doesn’t have any other business other than to always stalk us and keep looking for a way to make us feel bad and low. In other words, the one friend who doesn’t like us in secret and waits all the time to betray and backstab us. Though it might feel exaggerated, it is true.


We don’t know when we will get angry so cannot plan and control the way we react when we get triggered. It just happens so fast and so bad. We cannot stop it until we pour/ burst out all our anger.



I have been watching “VAMPIRE DIARIES” series, now that I have more free time and in that series, we can see how a vampire when it smells or sees blood, it just wouldn’t be able to stop itself till it drinks the blood. The things gets worse when the blood is not somewhere on the floor but on someone's body. It doesn't matter whether it is a good or bad thing to drink the blood for the vampire during the temptation hour, and all that it could feel is the blood and in the process of drinking, it almost all the time, ends up killing the person on whom the blood was on and gets haunted by the consequence of its action ( guilt).


The temptation( the blood) blindfolds it and makes it not see it's morale. You must be wondering what does this have to do with anger issues! I brought this thing up because it has got everything to do with anger issues.



Just like how a vampire is tempted by blood, so are we tempted by some situations, some people, their behaviour towards us or others. Yes, that temptation could seem silly," not a big deal", “I can handle/control it” but when it strikes unexpectedly, it makes us lose our cool and provoke us to behave in a way which would leave us killing good bonds, friendships, relationships.


All that it would reward us with at the end is guilt and “I shouldn’t have behaved that way or said those mean things"," I didn’t even mean but don’t know why I said it “ things.



“Speak when you are angry and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” – Ambrose Brierce , an American short story writer, journalist, poet, and Civil War veteran.


"Anger doesn’t demand action. When you act in anger, you lose self-control." – Joe Hyams, an American Hollywood columnist and author of bestselling biographies of Hollywood stars.


"A quick temper will make a fool of you soon enough." – Bruce Lee



HEALTH PROBLEMS :

  • In the short term, anger can cause headaches, migraines, chest pains, aches.

  • Over the long term, it can further complicate pre-existing health conditions.

  • It can also put us at risk for hypertension, high blood pressure, depression, and cardiovascular issues.


  • And for the women out there who are trying their best in maintaining their looks by eating healthy food and going to the parlour, anger creates wrinkles and displays ageing effects on your face.


  • Anger makes your facial muscles tense, which over time gives you lines,” says Jessica Wu MD, an associate clinical professor of dermatology at the University of Southern California medical school and Daily Glow’s dermatology expert.




We are no saints to have our emotions all under our control:


  • We are no saints to have our emotions all under our control, I know but for a human to be happy and peaceful, he or she is required to keep his or her calm all the time.


  • When we get ourselves upset or triggered by someone’s behaviour or somethinging, we can try to put ourselves in his/her shoes and try to understand why he/she did what he/she did or said what he/she said.


  • Though it might seem hard compared to the option of just getting angry and shouting at the person, let's just do this, as it can help us clear misunderstandings and keep us from getting angry.



But when someone keeps annoying us intentionally, we can do two things :


(i) we can try to get even by doing something bad to that person in return for what that person did,( but this means we are lowering our standard for someone, so let's not choose this option)




(ii) We can just focus on our peace and mood . Let's remind ourselves that we are better than that person.




Conclusion:



For every minute we are angry, we are losing exactly sixty seconds of happiness with no reward in return but only complete mess. Also, when we are holding on to anger, it just prevents us from being happy in the present and demotivates you from planning for a better future.

So if anger is so bad and useless, why think of that as a means to solve or deal anything?


Reference:

https://www.thehotline.org/2014/01/09/the-negative-effects-of-anger-on-you-and-others/


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