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EMPTINESS



Be honest now, okay? How many times have you felt a void or emptiness in your life? Many times right?



In this chapter, we will be talking about the most wondered question related to the emptiness which is: What is emptiness and when does one feel it? Is it normal to feel empty just like that? And how to fill the void or emptiness?


So now answering our first question: Emptiness or feeling a void in our heart is just so confusing and depressing.



Emptiness can just catch anyone and anytime:


We might be a person with good looks, good education, financial support and good health, and all the time surrounded by trustworthy friends and lovable family but still, we can catch us saying we feel empty. ( It is natural to feel such a feeling sometimes.)


For example, when you are scrolling through the Instagram news-feed you can see what people are up to and what they are doing with their lives and suddenly you might feel something inside you. Well, that can be a sign of having a void in your heart.



Emptiness can come anytime and for many reasons:


i) When you don't know what you are doing with your life ( be it your work life or personal life or social life )

ii) When you are not sure of your passion and ambition and you are just surviving in this fast-paced-money world instead of truly living by going after your passion or ambition. In other words when your passion is far away from your career.


iii) When you know what you have to do to make you happy and peaceful but you are scared of people's judgement or when you limit yourself to your comfort zone.


iv)When you spend your life by pleasing people that you forget to spend time for you ( ME TIME )


v) When you are constantly comparing yourselves with someone whom you think is the best and you try to be them instead of being you.


vii) When you are a person who has "half glass empty " mindset, when you try to self-pity you, searching for all the things which can make you feel like you don't have anything despite all the things you have, then you have a high chance of feeling empty, way often than other people.


viii) When you have your hope and trust broken


ix) When you have gone through a break-up or lost someone who meant more (the world) to you.


x) When you feel you couldn't contribute anything significant to anyone around. ( When you feel your presence doesn't make a difference to anything or anyone )


See, these are some of the reasons which I was able to come up with, which seemed to relate to the cause of emptiness. Among these ten, you might have found your cause for emptiness or there can be something else too.



All I know for sure is, feeling empty is a way of reminding ourselves that something is incomplete(missing) and it gives us the time to think about it and urges us to complete the incomplete ones in our lives. It is natural and common.



You might be thinking that certain people might not have that emptiness with themselves, as their lives seem complete and perfect from the outside:

But deep down everyone would have this emptiness every now and then. Emptiness is like a friend who visits us irrespective of the time ( busy time, lonely time etc) and to make us realise what we are doing with our lives and how close are we to become the person we want to be and live the life we want to live.


I hope this quote will help you realise that emptiness happens to everyone, not just you.


"The funny thing about having all this so-called success is that behind it is a certain horrible emptiness." - Sam Shepard, an American actor, playwright, author, screenwriter, and director


Enough with what is emptiness and its arrival details. Now, let us talk about what to do when one feels a void inside:



If you are feeling empty when you are lying awake on your bed at 3 am, well the best thing is to just sleep the night away and give the solution part for the day to do :P


Because, at night, we usually let our guards down and are one step away from depressing ourselves by over-thinking.


Feeling a void is a deep- low feeling so, I would say it is not a wise choice to mix over-thinking and emptiness especially at night time (the time we can find ourselves the most vulnerable)


I think nowadays, we have forgotten that the night is given for us to sleep as all we do at night is think!



So, back to the answer part:

  • Try to have your social, personal, work-life in balance and when you like feel you lack something in any one of these aspects, work it out. For example, if you think you feel empty because of not spending enough time with your loved ones, then keep it your priority to do that.

  • Likewise, analyse your life into various parts and do the required actions which need to be done and be away from over-thinking and self-pity kinds of stuff.

  • Just don't question yourselves for feeling emptiness as if you have done some crime.

  • Remind yourself you are where you need to be and whatever you are feeling is okay.

  • Use this empty feeling to fill you, and make you into an improved version of yourself -"happier-peaceful-successful You".

It couldn't have been said any better than by these quotes:



"Unfortunately, it is human nature for us to only learn and grow from a place of emptiness. It's hard to learn when we are winning and on top of the world."-Yehuda Berg, an author.


"I think when tragedy occurs, it presents a choice. You can give in to the void: the emptiness that fills your heart, your lungs, constricts your ability to think or even breathe. Or you can try to find meaning."- Sheryl Kara Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook, the founder of LeanIn.Org, and a philanthropist.



Conclusion: Feel empty? Feel the emptiness and do what all that is necessary to make you feel whole and complete! If you can feel empty, you sure can feel full and happy. It is that simple!

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