The easiest way to get lost in is self pity

People leave, relationship end, you lose your house, you don't get the job that you wanted, you become sick, someone betrays you. Anything can happen to anyone. You might even think why the hell only I am the only to go through many bad things whereas others are living smooth lives?

"That's life, you cannot expect life to be fair " would be the last thing which you would be willing to hear when you have so much to go through, I know.

What you can do is, you can allow yourself to feel the sadness, hurt and you can even cry. It is healthy too. But it turns into an unhealthy one when you let yourself get drowned into self-pity. When you say no to moving on, when you say no to accept and let it go, you automatically are giving it the power to consume you fully.

NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES OF SELF PITYING:

• It prevents you from doing anything.

• · It never lets you see that as a mistake and learn from it.

• · It stops you from achieving your dreams and stops you from truly living.

• · It attacks you with negative feelings like sadness, hurt, hopelessness, anxiety.

• · It separates you from having a good bond with others

• It prevents us from taking control and responsibilities

• · It fills one with resentment which again is not a good feeling.

• · It provokes one to get into self-sabotaging/destructive activities.

• Since feeling sorry for oneself is easy and comforting in some way, it's easy to fall into it. Later you will find it very difficult to come out of it.

HOW TO OVERCOME SELF PITYING:

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• KNOW THE PAIN IT BRINGS: When you find yourself self-pitying, remind yourself that the pain which comes along with that, is because of how you are letting yourself feel. Try to change the way you feel.