We know that anyone can feel lonely at any time but when we feel lonely, we behave as if we are the only ones going through such things.
So, why is it like that? What exactly is loneliness, how often does it come, is there any negative effects, does it affect our health and wellbeing and what can we do when we feel lonely, all these questions we will discuss now.
Loneliness is not always loud. People rarely express to the outside world how they feel. In general, everyone, whether we know or not, would be feeling lonely at times. People react differently to loneliness.
Some people seek external sources to clear away that feeling.
Some people would socialise how much ever possible to avoid feeling lonely,
While some would immerse themselves into work to prevent feeling lonely
While some others drown themselves in the ocean of loneliness.
1.In the first type, people try to resist that uncomfortable feeling by seeking out external sources like drugs, short term pleasures and other unhealthy activities. Though it might give temporary relief, it slaps back on the face with more ugly feeling and dissatisfaction. It's wise to say no to this kind of external sources.
2 . Some people would socialize in all possible ways. It might be the best solution to make them feel active, alive and social but for some people, it might end up draining them as too much of socializing could absorb energy and lead to exhaustion. Depending on how they feel and how much socialization they think would be best for them, they should consider and act accordingly.
3.Some would keep "to-do "list and engage themselves in doing those things and try to achieve satisfaction and happiness from it. By doing this, they might even elevate themselves to higher levels by taking those baby steps every day. In this case, they do things which they would have not done otherwise. Here, loneliness acts as a good driving force. This might sound better, but it should not make them workaholics and they should not forget about the other side of the world like personal, social lives. Trying to keep everything in a balance is a must in everything we do.
4. In the last type, people submerge themselves in loneliness ocean. They try to exclude themselves from the outside world. They say no to doing new things or doing things which they know would make them happy. They see only the bad things in everything and only the bad side in everyone’s behaviour. Sometimes they see others as noble people and themselves in undeserving people. They should break and come out from that depressing, self illusioned bad world. They should fight every negative thought and feeling that they come across.
Even a single negative thought or feeling has enough evil- manipulating power push one into unimaginable fatal state/ mindset.
Everyone gets lonely despite the fame or money, despite the appearance and popularity. We all daily see in the news or read in the newspaper how even famous actors, bigshots, wealthy people suffer from depression and loneliness.
Conclusion: Let's learn to accept every feeling instead of fighting against them. Let's do things like going out, attending new classes which can lead us to meet new people and create new bonds and memories. Let's build new healthy hobbies like reading books, watching series, exercising, etc. Let's do all these, let's take care of our mental, physical and emotional self and learn to love our own company. Let's not entirely be alone and exclude others, as I said before, let's try to find a balance in everything. We have the power to make our lonely phase into “productive, happy phase".